or nearly so, I am still sorting through my late husband’s things.
I should be past overpowering sadness by now.
I suppose I am, mostly.
But being a writer and photographer hinders that absolution.
Just when I begin to ascertain peace in my life, words intervene; I write about him and tear those nearly closed wounds open again.
It is as though he died this day, this moment, this hour.
Sadness seeps through the crevices the words carve.
Normal humans move forward, live their lives, make something of themselves from the shattered remains.
I want that, too.
But I’m a writer.
I’m a photographer.
I keep tearing those wounds, just as they’re healing, open.
I love writing about everything and photographing God’s perfect beauty; but it has a price.
I pay dearly through my words for they rip open wounds I’ve desperately attempted to close.
I bleed, painfully, and use photography to heal me.
Each image I capture stitches the brokenness and, simultaneously, pours remembrance on not quite yet healed hurts.
If one is not an artist of some kind, time will ease your pain.
For the rest of us, those with creative pieces in our soul, time simply laughs.
When the words, melodies and images are in our head and heart, there is little time can do.
What it can do is soon undone by what we are.
Sadness is my destiny, peace my hope.
And yet I write.
I photograph.
My hope is great.
My healing never really comes.
I have to ask myself if I would be willing to sacrifice my writing and photography for peace.
No, I answer.
I can live without peace.
To live without words and images would truly and altruistically destroy me.
That which brings me sadness will fuel my hope.
I am a writer and photographer.
Therein lies my hope.
A Photographer's Heart 