is an essential component of living in the South.
Without it, life would take an incomprehensible and irreversible turn.
Every few days, my mom says to me “we’re going to the funeral home”.
The “we” is she and my dad.
I never know what’s going on so, as far as I’m concerned, it could be a relative or close personal friend.
Tonight, it was the wife of a preacher I’ve never heard of.
I don’t take the paper myself and even if I did, I wouldn’t read every word of every obituary looking for familiar names so I’d have a reason to go to the funeral home.
When I was a kid, growing up on a dirt road miles off the “main road”, the obituaries were read on the radio.
You late forty and older crowd, who live or have lived in the South, know what I’m talking about.
There was one AM station on the radio that was only part static and most words could be understood.
First came the Pledge of Allegiance, then the obituaries followed by the madly popular “Swap Shop”.
Since there was only that one discernable station, everyone around our parts listened to it.
They swapped hogs and chickens for mule harnesses and tractor tires, then met at the funeral home to talk about it because someone they didn’t know, who was a relative of someone they hadn’t seen in years, had died.
Congregating at the funeral home; it’s a Southern thing, I suppose.
Or maybe it’s just a Southwest Virginia thing.
I think we’ll find, however, it’s broader than my little neck of the woods and call it a Southern thang.
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