works in several directions.
It is easy to say poor, poor, pitiful me.
Wasn’t that a song? I think it was.
Warren Devon sang it. I think Terri Clark tried to sing it, but seriously?
It’s just as easy to say I am supremely blessed.
It’s, I suppose, a fine line.
That line between self-indulgent sorrowfulness and outright blessings.
I’ve never been any good at drawing lines.
I’ve lost good friends because drawing lines …
was a handicap.
For good. For all times.
Because my line-drawing skills sucked like a wet-vac.
Those people, people I cared for very much, are no longer in my life because I didn’t conform to what they were looking for.
I wasn’t looking for anything other than friendship.
But, I think I had a vibe of some kind.
A sucker vibe.
I think of myself as strong and sufficient, but deep inside, I need approval; acceptance.
The people who pretended to know and understand me never understood that.
I find it plausible that others they prey on will find themselves in the same inexplicable, confusing place that I am in.
They ask for things, favors, jollies, but are Predators.
They have no real interest beyond their own control.
Yes. I know these people and am sorry for every thought they consumed.
I still think of them, more often than I want and wish they would leave my mind.
I wish to never think of them again, but strong personalities, people who use others for their own embodiment will always be out there.
Those of us who seek and thrive on acceptance will always be vulnerable to the likes of the JW’s
and DH’s in our lives.
Strength of character, knowledge of false friends and pure, unadulterated mistrust will sustain us.
Sad, but true.
That lesson I’ve learned.
It sucks to know you can’t trust the people you trusted.
While this is true for me, it isn’t such for everyone.
Follow your instincts.
Question your friends.
Trust few and investigate them thoroughly (hurting them be damned).
Trust your instincts. It’s rare that they will let you down, but sometimes it happens.
Little else matters.
But do not be deceived … people you ‘”trust” will use you.
If you believe nothing else, believe that.
This I learned the hard way and still, nearly every night, cry myself to sleep.
As my late husband would have said, be ashamed.
That’s all I have to say to J and D.
You know who you are.
It horrifies me that I cry for you.
Damn you both.